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  Comment #1 written by Rob (id 1307) on 2017-03-05 00:03:41 in reply to: 30 contenders (News ID 1732)

Gave him good votes for the sign, and for being so hot! I’d love to have him bearhug me.




  Comment #2 written by Southernguy48 (id 8540) on 2017-02-18 13:59:48 in reply to: SamLoveBearHugs vs Hard4You (News ID 1726)

awesome shots sam! happy new year!




  Comment #3 written by Firebrand (id 2372) on 2016-12-25 05:10:27 in reply to: Happy Holidays 2016! (News ID 1724)

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you too

Have a great hug into 2017 :-)

  Comment #4 written by Brasilhug (id 914) on 2016-12-23 17:28:30 in reply to: Happy Holidays 2016! (News ID 1724)

Yay!!
Merry Xmas and Happy new year for u too
I wish a 2017 with a lot of good vibes, aaand A LOT of bearhugs too >_<

Stay cool!




  Comment #5 written by Bigsqueezer (id 743) on 2016-10-30 20:19:45 in reply to: Hero: The Erik Atlas Archives (News ID 1718)

OMG humble thank you for the boost! More coming!




  Comment #6 written by Adrain64 (id 3641) on 2016-08-11 06:04:37 in reply to: Adrain's stories (News ID 1713)

Blush, thanks for the plug




  Comment #7 written by AndyHug (id 843) on 2016-07-05 06:41:29 in reply to: 18 years!!! ... already! (News ID 1709)

Still one of the best wrestling sites!

  Comment #8 written by StevieB (id 4469) on 2016-06-30 19:02:45 in reply to: 18 years!!! ... already! (News ID 1709)

Boo Ya! Congrads .18 & growing strong. Like to give all a big hugggg....

  Comment #9 written by Discat (id 6368) on 2016-06-29 00:20:13 in reply to: 18 years!!! ... already! (News ID 1709)

18 years of fun bud!! THANK YOU for everything you do here on BearHugger....can’t appreciate all of your efforts enough!

  Comment #10 written by Sking55 (id 3849) on 2016-06-28 21:51:40 in reply to: 18 years!!! ... already! (News ID 1709)

Hey LB!!........So how does it feel to have an 18 yr old child???- I hope you’re proud, which you should be.....probably also tired of raising a teenager- and we’ll have to drum up support for his college years........so everyone on here......CONTRIBUTE!!! .... this is a wonderful site, where we all have met many friends, and have a community......Thanks again, LB..........LOVE YOU MAN!!!

  Comment #11 written by Rob (id 1307) on 2016-06-28 03:12:07 in reply to: 18 years!!! ... already! (News ID 1709)

Happy bearhugiversary!

Thanks for the awesome site. Here’s to the next 18 years, and beyond!

Rob




  Comment #12 written by Bigsqueezer (id 743) on 2016-06-14 10:55:36 in reply to: Homocide Squeeze: Chapter 3 (News ID 1706)

I appreciate the mention and thanks for reading it - this one I’m sort of proud of and hope you guys vote and comment on it. if it’s something you like, I’ll be making more.

In the future i’ll note that it has adult/violence issues. It’s pro wrestling - that’s gonna happen.




  Comment #13 written by Primal Chaos (id 1000) on 2016-05-15 20:05:40 in reply to: Primal Chaos' bearhugs (News ID 1701)

Thanks so much for featuring this! I’m honored! (So is Max...)




  Comment #14 written by Pskbob2181 (id 5931) on 2016-05-28 13:53:11 in reply to: A question for fans of the boston crab (News ID 1697)

These are all great suggestions. It all depends on how you wish the hold to go.

  Comment #15 written by Maineagle93 (id 1086) on 2016-04-29 19:12:21 in reply to: A question for fans of the boston crab (News ID 1697)

I’ve always gone for the small of the back right behind the butt. It’s a great little ”seat” and my wrestling buds and I get a good long stretch there.

You have to do it in like stages though. The quick compression going down into the hold is enough of a stretch, that going full on is a bad idea. Getting down into position, and then pulling back a little more on the legs it the best idea

  Comment #16 written by JdawgOH (id 311) on 2016-04-29 15:16:49 in reply to: A question for fans of the boston crab (News ID 1697)

All comments above are correct. Just have a ’safe’ word that can be used so that the person applying the crab knows if you are truly in pain and need release.

  Comment #17 written by Webmaster (id 509) on 2016-04-28 19:54:23 in reply to: A question for fans of the boston crab (News ID 1697)

Bigsqueezer: Thanks! I fixed the link.

  Comment #18 written by Adam (id 92) on 2016-04-28 18:54:26 in reply to: A question for fans of the boston crab (News ID 1697)

Sitting on his bum means all the pressure is going into his upper legs/thighs. The higher up his back you sit, the more of his spine receives the pressue of the hold, which has always been my preference. I consider the boston crab to be a *back* targetting hold, and every one I’ve ever been in has had the applier sit on my middle back to get that hot, aching bending pain right at the base of my spine.

  Comment #19 written by Nick (id 1670) on 2016-04-27 01:08:14 in reply to: A question for fans of the boston crab (News ID 1697)

All wrestling holds have to be painful in order to be pleasurable. I have seen people in wrestling clips that put their bums on the lower back of the victim, just upper his bum. But I am guessing this will be more painful. So, just be careful and never forget to tap when he reaches your pain limit, and you will be fine.

  Comment #20 written by Bigsqueezer (id 743) on 2016-04-26 21:38:44 in reply to: A question for fans of the boston crab (News ID 1697)

Hey chief, that link seems to link to the bearhug with Zenk and Patera - you sure that’s where you want suggestions?

Seeing this might be the appropriate place for the comment, I figured i would start us off.

When I am horsing around, if we’re trying to impress a crowd, we’ d do it so there was a space between so we’d be able to put on the show of you bending back. If you want a real submission out of your victim, you need to bend him so hard he gets joint stress on his lower back and suffers breathing loss from having his chest compressed into the mats. It’s a grinding hold where the heel applying it gets a relatively effort free space to put his opponent into trouble.

The good rule is that is you’re doing it right, it should hurt and cause a submission.

  Comment #21 written by Fun4us (id 8822) on 2016-04-26 20:25:25 in reply to: A question for fans of the boston crab (News ID 1697)

Bum on Bum or bum on lower back is the correct way :) But the applier can bend to a knee or keep some distance between the two to ease the pressure. If your going for long term boston crab I suggest sitting bum to bum to start off and when the guy wants to tap straighten a bit to give him a break then sit back down a little further on the bottoms back :)




  Comment #22 written by Bigsqueezer (id 743) on 2016-04-26 21:39:44 in reply to: All you can eat bearhug buffet (News ID 1696)

Hey chief, that link seems to link to the bearhug with Zenk and Patera - you sure that’s where you want suggestions?

Seeing this might be the appropriate place for the comment, I figured i would start us off.

When I am horsing around, if we’re trying to impress a crowd, we’ d do it so there was a space between so we’d be able to put on the show of you bending back. If you want a real submission out of your victim, you need to bend him so hard he gets joint stress on his lower back and suffers breathing loss from having his chest compressed into the mats. It’s a grinding hold where the heel applying it gets a relatively effort free space to put his opponent into trouble.

The good rule is that is you’re doing it right, it should hurt and cause a submission.




  Comment #23 written by Miguy96 (id 4205) on 2016-02-02 08:00:29 in reply to: Cyberfights: Bearhugged and Back Breakers 1 (News ID 1685)

Completely agree. It was total crap. Everything you say (false advertising, bad title, action time) is spot on. Even the actual 1-2 bearhugs (generous at 1 minute total) were barely sellable.

Wasted my time and $$ :-) I buy the per min pkg via Can-Am TV and i watched it twice after thinking... hmmmm maybe I missed all of them. Nope.

They have an old bearhug video ”Cyberfights 7 : Bearhugged” which is much better. Not overly erotic, but pro, but WAYYYYY better than this one.

Cheers!

  Comment #24 written by Landon (id 718) on 2016-01-31 14:37:34 in reply to: Cyberfights: Bearhugged and Back Breakers 1 (News ID 1685)

They better have the big guy (forgot his name) come back and bear hug an even smaller twin for a hr non-stop next time. haha Yes, disappointing. The one bear hug was nice though.




  Comment #25 written by Webmaster (id 509) on 2016-01-24 21:16:01 in reply to: YT: Warlord bearhugs Carlos Colon (News ID 1684)

lol thanks ;) I did not even noticed.

  Comment #26 written by K33f (id 328) on 2016-01-21 21:42:23 in reply to: YT: Warlord bearhugs Carlos Colon (News ID 1684)

This video has been in the links section for years haha




  Comment #27 written by Firebrand (id 2372) on 2015-12-26 07:59:40 in reply to: Happy Holidays! (News ID 1682)

Thanks :)

Happy Holidays to you too

  Comment #28 written by Nick (id 1670) on 2015-12-25 05:50:31 in reply to: Happy Holidays! (News ID 1682)

Merry Christmas!!!




  Comment #29 written by Boy (id 1404) on 2015-12-17 23:26:27 in reply to: POTM #116: Oil (News ID 1681)

WWE needs a couple of these guys to spice things up.
Speakingof WWE, have you seen Braun Strowman? His finisher is called a lifting shoulder lock, but it’s pretty much just an oddly positioned bearhug that gets him KO and submission victories. And he’s a big bear.




  Comment #30 written by SUBMISSIONIST (id 3452) on 2015-12-18 22:58:33 in reply to: RealGNG shuts down on December 31st (News ID 1680)

Thank you for this site Mr. Lb.
I only wish MeetFighters was less restrictive with accepting our photos.
Their criteria of ranking images is absurd and elitist.
I’ve tried to participate on there as well, but they are not very welcoming unfortunately.

  Comment #31 written by Maineagle93 (id 1086) on 2015-12-14 21:21:22 in reply to: RealGNG shuts down on December 31st (News ID 1680)

Thanks for all that you do with this site Loserboy!




  Comment #32 written by Synxiec (id 9055) on 2016-03-17 11:01:29 in reply to: YT: Hercules vs Steve Casey (News ID 1679)

Have you tried using something like pocket to grab matches you like?

  Comment #33 written by Ringmuscle (id 389) on 2015-12-02 08:37:59 in reply to: YT: Hercules vs Steve Casey (News ID 1679)

so hot to see Herc manhandle this muscle bound cowboy woof!




  Comment #34 written by Nick (id 1670) on 2015-11-14 13:42:30 in reply to: Vin Marco and Zeb Atlas (News ID 1678)

The Zeb Atlas one was so lame...




  Comment #35 written by Bearhugmanila (id 3433) on 2015-10-24 08:17:39 in reply to: Why not some NRW? (News ID 1674)

Some of their performers are concerned about their faces appearing on certain sites? Who did these performers think their audience is?




  Comment #36 written by Brutalmerc (id 10992) on 2016-02-28 12:44:33 in reply to: Cameron Wrestler: Lane Hartley vs Z-Man (News ID 1670)

z man know how2 look HOTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT

  Comment #37 written by Epiphany (id 1458) on 2015-09-05 23:53:04 in reply to: Cameron Wrestler: Lane Hartley vs Z-Man (News ID 1670)

This actually makes me want to get this video. Lifted reverse (quality lifted reverse) and lifted frontal bearhugs both look good and Z-Man makes a great jobber.

Thanks to Cameron Wrestler for the promo pics.




  Comment #38 written by Bigsqueezer (id 743) on 2015-09-02 19:24:30 in reply to: A bit batch of videos with bearhugs (News ID 1669)

HOLY CRAP that’s huge LIST




  Comment #39 written by JdawgOH (id 311) on 2015-07-01 07:39:31 in reply to: Happy 17th anniversary! (News ID 1657)

Congratulations to those who’ve kept this site going! and THANK YOU!

  Comment #40 written by AndyHug (id 843) on 2015-06-30 10:00:56 in reply to: Happy 17th anniversary! (News ID 1657)

Happy anniversary, thanks for such a great site!

  Comment #41 written by Rob (id 1307) on 2015-06-30 06:34:09 in reply to: Happy 17th anniversary! (News ID 1657)

Wow, 17 years! That’s how long I’ve been online, but I didn’t discover this site until about 7 years ago. And I’m so glad I did! It’s still one of the first sites I go to each morning. And I’ve gotten off to the content here countless times. :) Here’s to the next 17 years!!

Rob




  Comment #42 written by Epiphany (id 1458) on 2015-05-22 18:09:51 in reply to: Big Bear Hugs 6 (News ID 1651)

Companies that appreciate advertising and send a video for review are smart and, providing the product looks good (which, from the pictures it does), also attractive for purchase.

Well done MDW, well done. Looking forward to the review. Voted on the pics. Great Job.




  Comment #43 written by Boy (id 1404) on 2015-04-22 20:51:59 in reply to: POTM #111: Nipple claw or groin claw... again. (News ID 1647)

The more nipple claws the better.

  Comment #44 written by Boricua Wrestler (id 8076) on 2015-04-21 10:39:59 in reply to: POTM #111: Nipple claw or groin claw... again. (News ID 1647)

El Phantasmo matches always have nipple claws. As for example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRITB-2xTmc (0:55)

  Comment #45 written by Bigsqueezer (id 743) on 2015-04-18 11:35:17 in reply to: POTM #111: Nipple claw or groin claw... again. (News ID 1647)

As a hold, the nipple claw makes me laugh.... victim with his hands VERY free to slap the s#!+ out of the attacker for even trying that, you’d think that would happen right off?

So I know these are added because promoters WANT to see a tough guy suffering through the hold.




  Comment #46 written by Bigsqueezer (id 743) on 2015-04-10 12:25:31 in reply to: Mil Mascaras vs. Billy Graham (News ID 1645)

WHOOO! I love seeing stuff I posted get front page treatment! Thanks man!




  Comment #47 written by Marklondon71 (id 161) on 2015-03-18 11:22:25 in reply to: POTM #110: Russian Muscles bye bye (News ID 1641)

I wonder if they’re suffering from censorship as well..




  Comment #48 written by JackStroak69 (id 3442) on 2015-03-08 00:01:00 in reply to: MJO2Pro (News ID 1640)

Hey...thanks for the recommendation.

Guys might have more luck finding the homepage by adding /info to the string.

Or use the previous URL (without /neo), it should re-direct to the homepage.

Cheers,
Jack stroak69
Owner/moderator MenJO2ProWrestling
MJO2Pro on YouTube

  Comment #49 written by Epiphany (id 1458) on 2015-03-07 07:08:01 in reply to: MJO2Pro (News ID 1640)

When I click on the link I get a 404 link not found error




  Comment #50 written by Webmaster (id 509) on 2014-12-28 13:18:15 in reply to: Least voted uploads (News ID 1628)

Should be fixed now :)

  Comment #51 written by Epiphany (id 1458) on 2014-12-27 19:23:35 in reply to: Least voted uploads (News ID 1628)

The webmaster is aware of the sorting issues and will address them as time permits. More just FYI.




  Comment #52 written by Brasilhug (id 914) on 2014-12-25 14:02:03 in reply to: Merry Christmas 2014! :) (News ID 1627)

Merry Christmas from Brazil!! \o/
And thanks for keepping this site this good.
Happy new year too!!

  Comment #53 written by Firebrand (id 2372) on 2014-12-25 02:52:57 in reply to: Merry Christmas 2014! :) (News ID 1627)

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you too :-)




  Comment #54 written by FrotterBear (id 7559) on 2014-12-27 10:11:58 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

1. Be brutally honest. Tell the guy what you want from the match . which means you need to think through what you want down to the details . and insist that he explain what he wants from it. If his answers are vague or evasive, forget about the guy and move on. There are lots of us who’ll be upfront about our expectations, needs, and preferences.
2. Set specific rules for the match to ensure safety. What’s OK, what’s out of bounds. If you’re a newcomer to wrestling insist that the rules are for your safety.and the opponent’s. If a prospective opponent won’t agree to specific rules, it’s an indication he could be into stuff that’s more advanced and possibly dangerous. So move on.
3. Meet at a neutral location, not the guy’s place. Don’t get cornered. If the guy insists on his place, take a hint. He’s not on the level. If you’re wrestling for the first time and you’re nervous about it, you could ask someone you trust to function as a ”second” and be in the vicinity.



  Comment #55 written by Want2BHugged (id 7505) on 2014-12-26 23:00:26 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

For safety I would try and get to know the other guy as well as possible. That way you feel comfortable with him if you choose to meet up. Also try to get an understanding of his wrestling background. That way you’ll know his experiences. Guys who’ve wrestled a ton will be the most careful with newcomers and will adjust their own style.

To ensure safety you should make ground rules. A code word to release holds. That’s basically the best thing you can do, And again try to get to know the guy.

You should meet up at a neutral place that you would feel most comfortable at. Maybe meet up before the match to get to know the guy? Like a cafe? Then you’re not meeting with a stranger in a private place. Otherwise you can bypass that and just meet up at your place, his place, or even a hotel.

Sex is something not to be taken lightly. Always make sure to tell your wrestling buddies that sex is on the table or not. It would be awkward to sort that out half way through.

  Comment #56 written by Adrain64 (id 3641) on 2014-12-26 03:21:28 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

1. set limits, tell your opponent the rules to play by. He should respect them. Some compromise is ok, but if he insists on something you are not sure of then call it off. You need to feel comfortable
2. see no. 1 and also agree on a tap out or safe word.
3. I always meet first timers in a cafe or somewhere to discuss what we are expecting. Some people I immediately gel with, others I don’t. Trust your instincts. Meet in a hotel if you don’t know the guy for the first time. Its needs to be a neutral place so you feel safe
4. Yes, always be honest. If that is not your aim then state it from the start, you want this guy to be honest so you have to be honest too. If he calls it off, its his choice and he was just interested in sex, that’s not where you are at present.


  Comment #57 written by pinme (id 5017) on 2014-12-23 05:34:33 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

Well, for one thing, there are no guarantees about safety. Accidents can happen. However, the closest thing to that would be to meet the man first in a neutral place and attempt to judge his character. During that meeting, he can be open about his concerns and see how the man reacts. Honesty and openness are the key here. Let him know that he doesn’t want sex the first time, but that if things go well, there could be future meetings. I always felt it was very important to feel comfortable with people you meet, and for me this would be the best way to accomplish that.

  Comment #58 written by Landon (id 718) on 2014-12-19 16:15:19 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

3. I normally ask guys to wrestle at my place. But that’s just my preference. Mainly because I’m familiar with the environment. Meeting up at a hotel really depends on the connection. If the guy seems knowledgeable of the wrestling scene, then go for it. If they are constantly trying to get more from you other than wrestling, then I’d pass. If you just want wrestling, then the other guy should agree pretty easily.

4. Always make sure to indicate that sex is not an option. I’ve said it multiple times already, but make sure to get a good connection with the guys you meet online. Sometimes they’ll say whatever just to meet up with you in real life. It’s not til then where they try to make a move. In any of these situations, you have to be strong and confident. Also, if you’re new, try finding guys that are commonly known amongst the community on this site. The wrestlers who’ve already wrestled 100 guys. Maybe the best choice because they’ll be able to cater to new guys

  Comment #59 written by Landon (id 718) on 2014-12-19 16:15:14 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

3. I normally ask guys to wrestle at my place. But that’s just my preference. Mainly because I’m familiar with the environment. Meeting up at a hotel really depends on the connection. If the guy seems knowledgeable of the wrestling scene, then go for it. If they are constantly trying to get more from you other than wrestling, then I’d pass. If you just want wrestling, then the other guy should agree pretty easily.

4. Always make sure to indicate that sex is not an option. I’ve said it multiple times already, but make sure to get a good connection with the guys you meet online. Sometimes they’ll say whatever just to meet up with you in real life. It’s not til then where they try to make a move. In any of these situations, you have to be strong and confident. Also, if you’re new, try finding guys that are commonly known amongst the community on this site. The wrestlers who’ve already wrestled 100 guys. Maybe the best choice because they’ll be able to cater to new guys

  Comment #60 written by Landon (id 718) on 2014-12-19 16:08:10 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

1. First, I would make sure I was in good shape depending what style of match I’d be putting myself into. If I was a tiny jobber meeting up with Goiath to bear hug me, I’d probably at least want to get a good stretch in or put boundaries to how far things should go. Even suggest a word to say if things start to hurt. Also, I’d ask my opponent what style they’re into. Are they into rough matches where anything goes? That could be the case or the guy may just want a simple submission pin match. That way we’d both be on the same page.

2. I would ask him about his wrestling history. Get to know the guy before anything happens. Maybe see if he wrestled anyone on here if indicated by his page. Then I could message those wrestlers and get confirmation. I normally can tell if they seem sane after a good conversation with them. Again, boundaries and rules are good.



  Comment #61 written by Brasilhug (id 914) on 2014-12-18 21:16:32 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

First of all, both you and him must respect one another, and know at least a little about who you’re going to wrestle helps a lot..
Then set the limits of the match and for the other things too.
You have to tell the other guy that you just want to have some fun..
Respect above everything. ,)

  Comment #62 written by Epiphany (id 1458) on 2014-12-18 12:57:07 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

1. To help avoid injury make sure your opponent is experienced and remember it goes both ways. There is a difference between deliberately trying to injure someone and trying to get a submission, an experienced wrestler knows these differences and candidly so should you. Don’t try to injure your opponent.

2: Safe words and if possible make sure others are present. In so far as dangerous opponents go get references and actually speak with them.

3: Letting someone into your home or going to their home involves trust. If you don’t know this person trust must be earned. Remember, hotel rooms COST. If you are having a match with someone at a hotel split the bill and have both of your information on file.

4: Yes. You aren’t a prostitute. You are a wrestler. Sex should be mutually consensual and if it isn’t it’s rape.

  Comment #63 written by Jason (id 1321) on 2014-12-18 09:17:18 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

1. Set limits before the match. 2. Check to see if he has had previous matches and ask one of the wrestlers what he thought of him and if he can be trusted. 3. I would meet at a hotel, unless you or he has an excellent ring or set up for the match. 4. Yes-tell him you do not want sex. 5.

  Comment #64 written by Discat (id 6368) on 2014-12-18 01:57:20 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

Also take a look at any past opponents and read any posts...dont be afrad to reach out and ask those previous opponents if they would have or would want another match with that particular opponent or not. So far the comunity of guys I have met here have been incredibke people...but I make sure I ”feel” comfortable with them by my communicstions with them here, email and on the phone...BEFORE I agree to meet up and just like Bigsqueezer recomended...I sometimes will meet up for a coffee in a public place first just to see if my ”read” on my new friend is accurate. So far Im batting 100%
ALWAYS trust your gut instincts!

  Comment #65 written by Discat (id 6368) on 2014-12-18 01:47:52 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

1) communicate with the other wrestler a bit first...get to know him by inquirying what kin dof matches does he enjoy and why...share with him that you are new to this scene and that youre excited but also a bit apprehensive and see how he responds

2) since youve already expressed your apprehension/concern...look for some kind of reassurance if you dont get it...dont go! This is a two party dance and both people need to have a good time for it to be worthwhile! Getting to know your opponent a bit before you meet will help provide the needed confidence that you can trust one another...you can evenn exchange emails or phone #’s once you feel more comfortable to further ease your mind...but again...if you dont hear or see something that puts your mind to ease...dont go!

3) I like the neutral place...the hotel...because...its a bit more public...and you are not subjecting your personal address to someone you are just getting to know.

4) Absolutely tell the guy you dont want sex.


  Comment #66 written by Jobberinnyc (id 1378) on 2014-12-17 23:17:31 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

1. Look for someone who has a lot of experience and mentions that they like to teach. It’s more likely you’ll get hurt if it’s two inexperienced wrestlers.
2. Look for someone who has had ”verified” matches (more than just one or two.) In addition to that person most likely being safe, they’ll also be less likely to flake out at the last minute. Listen to the kinds of questions they ask. ”Do you like to fight?” is the beginning of a red flag for me. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS!! They go a long way.
3. Meet in public first. Get a coffee together and talk about something other than wrestling to get a feel for them.
4. Always be straightforward. It’s a lot easier if both people go into the match knowing the other one’s intentions. If you don’t talk about it and someone gets an erection during the match, they may get an incorrect impression.


  Comment #67 written by Subkid (id 3821) on 2014-12-17 23:06:31 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

Note: He doesn’t want to tell his friends and family that he wrestles. So asking a friend to call the police if something goes wrong or if he is not back before a given time is a no-no.

I think you should seriously swallow your pride on this issue and tell just one person where you are. For one, this provides you with an ”out” - if the person you’re with is discourteous or on something, you won’t need to get an Uber. Secondly, and I’m not trying to scare you with this - it would be a shame to all the people you know if something serious happened to you because you couldn’t trust someone with that information.

  Comment #68 written by Subkid (id 3821) on 2014-12-17 23:06:13 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

4. Should he be just straightforward and tell him that he doesn’t want any sex for his match?

I think it’s a good idea, but I would phrase it in a way that isn’t presumptuous. You’ll probably figure out what someone’s angle on wrestling is if you talk to them for a while, and for some wrestling is just a veneer for hooking up. I would probably slide my opinion on erotic wrestling into the chat.

I would never plan on having sex going into a match. Why? I feel that, for some opponents who decide on that, their sexual desire trumps their drive to compete with and dominate the other man, so what would be a fun wrestling match degrades into a rip-n-strip that I could’ve had with Mr. Right Now at the bar next door.

It’s up to you to decide if that’s a direction you want to go in, and all I’d advise you to do is try to understand what both you and your opponent are expecting from each other. That way you can’t get pressured into anything later due to the ambiguity of the situation.

  Comment #69 written by Subkid (id 3821) on 2014-12-17 23:05:40 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

3. Should he meet the guy at a hotel to wrestle him or should he wrestle the guy at his place?

Neither.

Meet them in public first to make sure that they’re the real deal, are courteous, so on and so forth. It sucks when someone’s visiting because time is a factor and a public meeting detracts from that, but there’s plenty of time in life to wrestle other guys, no?

As far as the location, first ask yourself if it’s okay that the person knows where you live. The second factor is your wrestling surface - mattresses make a GREAT surface because they eliminate rugburn and provide enough padding to reduce fatigue enough so you can wrestle for hours.

  Comment #70 written by Subkid (id 3821) on 2014-12-17 23:05:19 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

2. What can he ask his opponent to ensure his safety? How can he make sure that his opponent is not someone dangerous that will or can cause his harm?

Ask him what kind of training and experience he has with wrestling, and make sure you can get a straight answer. Checking up with people someone has wrestled previously is a good idea, too, in order to make sure that they took care of them. If you’re having issues with either of these, take it easy - it’s your prerogative to know what you’re getting into, and your opponent should respect that.

On a side note, make sure they don’t plan on using drugs. Some people use drugs before they exercise - pretty much anything outside of Creatine is a no-go.

  Comment #71 written by Subkid (id 3821) on 2014-12-17 23:04:54 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

1. What can he do to ensure his safety? How can he make sure he won’t get injured in this first match?

The first thing to do is to verify that the person you’re with is safe - try and contact someone the person has wrestled previously and see what they have to say about him. If they mention that he wrestles ”stiff” or is a ”true heel,” then that is a red flag.

Know your limits - test your flexibility by doing some splits, and back raises. If you’re not very flexible, a spladle, shoulder rack, camel clutch or some other move that strains the back can really hurt and possibly herniate your back.
If you decide to stretch before wrestling, know that this fatigues your muscles but will increase your flexibility temporarily.

Finally, decide on what moves you’re okay with, and then when you meet someone for the first time, have them try them on you to see how much pressure you can take. And once you know your limits, establish a ”safe word” to get someone to stop if you can’t tap.

  Comment #72 written by Bigsqueezer (id 743) on 2014-12-17 22:19:40 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

4. Should he be just straightforward and tell him that he doesn’t want any sex for his match? - I have found if you can say what you want you have a WAY better chance of getting what you want. I LIKE hearing my buddies hard limits and know what the deal-killers are. I dont want to blunder into something that makes his time bad - I want to be fun for him so he comes back wanting me more and more. This is a gift we give each other.

In the end if you get several men you’ve met and they co-mutually meet each other, you have a tribe of warrior brothers that bond with you deeply and its amazing to return to their mats. They push my training and workouts in ways no one else can! Be good - that is play fair and clearly labeled. Have fun - you know how to have fun, make this fun.

i hope this helped
BIGSQUEEZER
Dan

  Comment #73 written by Bigsqueezer (id 743) on 2014-12-17 22:14:56 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

3. Should he meet the guy at a hotel to wrestle him or should he wrestle the guy at his place? - Hotels are semi-public and its really hard to keep a hard throwing match a secret while its happening. I usually mneet a first-time partner at a neutral place for coffee and we get going, to see if he matches his pics and ID description, and give him a chance to get to know me and like me. I may NOT be what he’s looking for so I always get ready to hear him veto the whole thing once seeing me. Only happened once - but I was glad we got that out of the way before i spent $100 on a hotel. Yes that hurts your feelings - move on.

  Comment #74 written by Bigsqueezer (id 743) on 2014-12-17 22:11:47 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

2. What can he ask his opponent to ensure his safety? How can he make sure that his opponent is not someone dangerous that will or can cause his harm? - The truth - this is a game of risk and limiting risk. If he wants to tie you up and place you in an intentionally vulnerable space - maybe this is not what you do on a first date. I dont! I get references and ask them if the man plays well, does what he says and say what he does and they match. Remember your partner here may have the same concerns - listen to his concerns and fears and answer them the best you can.

  Comment #75 written by Bigsqueezer (id 743) on 2014-12-17 22:09:14 in reply to: Advice for a newcomer, please (News ID 1624)

Finding someone to play with is a process of sorting. You often can not convert someone into being your ideal wrestling buddy. If someone doesn’t match, negotiate with them what he wants and speak as clearly as possible what you want, or move on. You may find that you only THINK you know what you want and should allow yourself some room for that to evolve.

1) Ensure safety? Do safe things! If you are nervous about meeting strangers the best way to be safe is get to know him and make him not-a-stranger. Talk, chat on line, ask him for references for men that he’s taken on before, google his name. Get to know him. I get nervous when I have a new partner that I plan on having agressive action with and find out he has not even googled my name to see what comes up.




  Comment #76 written by Boy (id 1404) on 2014-11-16 20:39:48 in reply to: 23 contenders (News ID 1618)

That’s crazy. While I would boost my favorite wrestlers back when unlimited voting was allowed, I always was fair with my votes, even when it was my own contender.
But creating duplicate accounts just to do so is silly.
Anyway, time to go check out these new guys.




  Comment #77 written by DICK (id 9352) on 2014-09-24 08:37:35 in reply to: POTM #107: Officer Jason Rage (News ID 1614)

I'd rather take on Joseph!!

  Comment #78 written by Boy (id 1404) on 2014-08-20 19:08:52 in reply to: POTM #107: Officer Jason Rage (News ID 1614)

I love costume gimmicks! Especially bearhug ones. I hope he gets some submissions with it.




  Comment #79 written by FLTazdevil (id 2125) on 2014-08-02 08:25:24 in reply to: Orientation (News ID 1611)

Good compromise. I dont care what the orientation of a wrestler is, I respect their privacy.




  Comment #80 written by Jay (id 89) on 2014-07-17 23:32:59 in reply to: What is Promission? (News ID 1609)

Thank YOU, I have always wondered about what it really was.




  Comment #81 written by Nick (id 1670) on 2014-06-25 03:54:44 in reply to: 16th! (News ID 1607)

Thank you sooo much for all your work over the years!

  Comment #82 written by AndyHug (id 843) on 2014-06-24 08:06:32 in reply to: 16th! (News ID 1607)

I’ve said it before and I’m sayin’ it again, this is one of the best (and oldest!) wrestling site on the net! Thanks!

  Comment #83 written by Discat (id 6368) on 2014-06-24 00:32:59 in reply to: 16th! (News ID 1607)

LB
THANK YOU!!!!! Met so many cool dudes due to your efforts here...very grateful for everything you have worked to accomplish here and for making it fun to boot!!

  Comment #84 written by Brasilhug (id 914) on 2014-06-23 23:14:07 in reply to: 16th! (News ID 1607)

Thank you very much for bringing this site on..
We really appreciate that.
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  Comment #85 written by Rob (id 1307) on 2014-06-23 11:50:48 in reply to: 16th! (News ID 1607)

Happy 16th anniversary to one of my very favorite sites!

  Comment #86 written by Squeezable (id 2300) on 2014-06-23 10:17:13 in reply to: 16th! (News ID 1607)

Many thanks for keeping up with the site. Appreciate the time and effort you’re putting in to keep it going. Happy Anniversary!

  Comment #87 written by Firebrand (id 2372) on 2014-06-23 08:32:17 in reply to: 16th! (News ID 1607)

Thanks to You for all your work and for keeping this great site online :)

  Comment #88 written by Wrestl0r (id 836) on 2014-06-23 01:41:45 in reply to: 16th! (News ID 1607)

Buggy? What are you talking about, it’s perfect! :-)

Thank you for spending the time to maintain and improve the site! Been visiting it since almost the beginning, still can’t believe it’s been that long... Anyway, here’s to another 16 (at least) years!




  Comment #89 written by Boy (id 1404) on 2014-06-09 21:42:17 in reply to: Backbreakerz (News ID 1604)

Guilty. ,)




  Comment #90 written by Webmaster (id 509) on 2014-04-21 18:41:37 in reply to: 4 matches (News ID 1598)

Thanks! The issue should be fixed now.

  Comment #91 written by Subkid (id 3821) on 2014-04-21 10:17:34 in reply to: 4 matches (News ID 1598)

Howdy,

The first link is bugged.

~R




  Comment #92 written by Mushashi (id 909) on 2014-04-12 01:03:32 in reply to: POTM #104: Musashi vs Bearhugmanila (News ID 1597)

Appreciate the kind words :)

  Comment #93 written by Bearhugmanila (id 3433) on 2014-04-11 21:03:59 in reply to: POTM #104: Musashi vs Bearhugmanila (News ID 1597)

Thanks for the kinds words, Webbie. :-)




  Comment #94 written by ShootWrestler (id 7759) on 2014-04-13 07:47:06 in reply to: A note about Bearhugger or not section... (News ID 1596)

The Bearhugger or not section is one of my favorite sections on this site. It is beyond belief why anyone would want to criticize the content there. I suppose some people with no brains have nothing better to do than to sit around and complain about what someone else is trying to do to help make online more enjoyable. I hope the webmaster doesn’t decide to eliminate this section. I suppose if a user is too abusive and critical, he could be kicked off the site. Please keep up the good work. I really enjoy it.




  Comment #95 written by Grjobber (id 180) on 2014-03-20 15:48:10 in reply to: Wrestlefest 2014 is over :`) (News ID 1593)

From the bottom of my heart thank you for being such a gracious host and a wonderful person..
Nikos




  Comment #96 written by WoodlandWookiee (id 8112) on 2014-02-15 07:31:32 in reply to: POTM #103: CGI (News ID 1590)

Wow. Cheers for that! If my computer weren’t down and out right now, I’d probably be sharing more!




  Comment #97 written by Jake7l (id 8769) on 2014-02-12 20:36:53 in reply to: Server downtime (News ID 1589)

Thanks for maintaining the site. You are awesome.

  Comment #98 written by Ringmuscle (id 389) on 2014-02-12 08:49:39 in reply to: Server downtime (News ID 1589)

you do a great job at maintaining this site and we all appreciate it




  Comment #99 written by Slater Jackson (id 2707) on 2014-02-11 10:28:58 in reply to: The Russian Gimmick... again! (News ID 1588)

Damn! Jobber’s dream come true for sure! Sign me up!




  Comment #100 written by Rob (id 1307) on 2014-05-13 19:43:55 in reply to: Stories with a different style (News ID 1582)

I love the idea of having them in their own section. They’re not my thing, but I think they should be available for those who are into them.




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