http://bearhug.cjb.net           http://www.bearhugger.net


Adding a Comment



If you have a wrestling profile on this site, please log in first to link your profile to this comment.

  To add a comment, please fill in the fields below.
Your name or nickname:
Validation code:

  Read carefully: Enter only the first and last digit of the code below:
     
(This is to prevent automated comments, you can log in to avoid this)
  Comment:



[ Click here to view existing comments ]


Selectivity and technology - Thursday November 16th 2017   [ Back to top ]

I was reading this article the other day that a friend sent to me. It's a BBC article about the creator of Gaydar who recently passed away. His website helped the gay community find each other, pulling them out of isolation, especially in countries where being gay is still not widely accepted.

It has its consequence as well. For example, the article mentions that it made the gay community too selective and that sites like Grindr and Gaydar may be the leading cause of the closure of gay bars.

The notion of selectivity evidently applies as well for sites like this one, or MeetFighters or Globalfight. During the times where classified ads in your vintage gay magazine was the only way to reach out to someone, you'd be happy to see a single wrestler in the whole directory of ads of gay men. Snail mail was the communication of choice and you'd wait for weeks to get a response and several months to plan a wrestling meet. Driving several hours to meet this one other wrestler who seemed to be the only other guy that wrestles in the planet was not uncommon. The choice back then being much smaller, one couldn't afford to be selective. The web changed all that. For most, it made it easier, but for some, it isolated them even more.

Every week, I find fake users who post pictures of the perfect bodybuilders that are from somebody else, not theirs. I close their profiles and I sometimes think of their backstory. Maybe that person experienced the disgust of being rejected countless amount of times and maybe that person wants the attention they could have had if they had the perfect body. Maybe seeing people drool over them gives them the satisfaction or the happiness they need to go on.

While you can't make things perfect for everybody, you can try to improve it for most people. Making the web a better place for gay men to wrestle other gay men became my new objective after I realized that I wasn't the only who shared this wrestling passion. The road to my objective was obviously rocky, but the end result definitely was well worth the effort even if it came with a few drawbacks. Knowing that I made a difference by reading the feedback I got from several users on how it reshaped or changed their lives is definitely a hint that I probably erred in the right direction.

Most sites have switched to the mobile format and I never really followed the trend or took the bandwagon. Will my site suffer because of it? Probably. Will I cry over it? Probably not. There isn't a month that goes by where I see technology evolving around me and the thing I work on becoming obsolete. No matter the changes and the transformation in the industry, I'm happy with my work and I'll keep on growing on it as long as the web continues to allow me to post content like this in the format of a web browser.